《倫敦書評》丨李翊云：在美國銘記

To Remember in America

2026年2月6日

上世紀70年代，我在北京上幼兒園時，有一位老師似乎從折磨孩子中獲得了無窮無盡的樂趣。每次游戲時間，她都會提前把某個孩子罰站——因為她“看出”那孩子即將調皮搗蛋。而她的懲罰方式堪稱“獨創”：孩子既不能站著，也不能坐著，只能蹲著，就像在用露天茅廁一樣。我常常就是那個孩子，因為她覺得我聰明得“過了頭”。有一次，她把手比成手槍抵住我的頭，說：“砰。”

但那還不是最糟的。她上小學五年級的兒子，常在午休時來我們幼兒園。他母親會坐在午睡室門口織毛衣，而那個男孩——在我們四歲孩子眼里簡直像個巨人——則拿著一把錘子在床鋪間來回踱步，威脅說誰要是敢動一下或發出一點聲音，就砸碎他的腦袋。每次那個可怕的男孩進來，我都會隔著床欄，緊緊握住旁邊小床上那個男孩的手，嚇得動彈不得。

幾十年后，我回北京探望母親，竟在路上遇見了那位老師。如今她已是個虛弱的老婦人，正朝我們走來。母親告訴我，她經常打聽我的近況，讓我打個招呼。我斷然拒絕。當她和母親寒暄時，我轉過身去背對著她。事后母親責備我太無禮。我解釋說，這個女人很邪惡，當年虐待過我們這些孩子。母親卻以她一貫的篤定語氣說：“這不可能是真的。你們當時為什么不告訴家長？其他老師為什么沒阻止她？”見我沉默不語，她便斷定我們那時一定太淘氣，并引用了一句俗語：“可憐之人，必有可恨之處。”

每天早上上學路上，我都會哭。但一個四歲的孩子，哪懂得如何表達自己的恐懼與痛苦？幼兒園里還有其他大人，卻似乎沒人覺得那位老師的做法有何不妥（也許即便家長知道，也不會覺得有什么問題）。他們都從這位老師的管教中獲益——我們變得乖順、易于管理。

生活在今天的美國，讓我想起了那所幼兒園：那種肆虐的暴政；那些像拿錘子的男孩一樣，因為可以為所欲為而肆意欺凌無辜者的男人；還有那些像我母親一樣的人，堅稱“這不可能是真的，生活不會那么糟糕”；如果壞事發生了，一定是你自己的問題；別惹事；保持希望吧——中期選舉時會好轉的，四年后會變好的，總有一天會好起來的。

一位住在倫敦的朋友提到，最近她總聽到一句令人費解的話：“這不是美國，這不是我們的樣子。”但這就是美國，這就是生活，這就是人類的行為方式。美國例外論救不了我們。我和朋友們現在出門前都會確保手機電量充足——必要時可以錄像取證。這雖只是微小之舉，卻也并非毫無風險。

我不知道當年在幼兒園里和我手拉手的那個小男孩，是否還記得我們共同經歷過的恐懼。那時他被視作“遲鈍”，而我曾多次為他挺身而出，惹了不少麻煩。后來上了小學，我不再能保護他，他遭受了更多欺凌和虐待。五十年過去了，如今我能為他做的，唯有銘記——正如當年他握住我的手，給予我那一點點卻至關重要的慰藉。

To Remember in America

Yiyun Li

When I was at nursery school in Beijing in the 1970s, there was a teacher who seemed to find tireless pleasure in tormenting the children. At playtime, she would pre-emptively put a child on a time out, as she could see that the child was heading into mischief. And her punishment – an ingenious invention – was that the child could not stand or sit but had to squat as though using an open-air toilet. I was often that child, as she thought I was too smart for my own good. She once put her hand into the shape of a pistol to my head and said: bang.

But that was not the worst. Her son, who was in fifth grade at the nearby elementary school, would visit us on his lunch break. His mother would sit at the entrance of the nap room, knitting, while the boy – who looked like a giant to us four-year-olds – would walk around with a hammer, threatening to bash our skulls in if anyone dared to move or make a sound. Every time the teacher’s monstrous son came in, I would hold hands through the bedrail with the boy in the cot next to mine, paralysed by fear.

Decades later, visiting my mother in Beijing, I saw the teacher, by now a frail old woman, walking toward us. My mother told me that the teacher often asked about me and that I should greet her. Absolutely not, I said, and turned my back to the woman when she exchanged greetings with my mother, who afterwards chastised me for being rude. I explained that the woman was evil and had abused us as children. My mother said, with her usual certainty: ‘That can’t be true. Why didn’t you or the other children tell the parents? Why didn’t the other teachers stop her?’ When I didn’t reply, she concluded that we were simply too naughty and went on to quote a proverb that anyone who finds himself in a pitiful situation must harbour something worth hating.

I cried every morning on the way to nursery school, but few four-year-olds would know how to articulate their terror and misery. There were other adults at the school, but none of them seemed to find the teacher’s practice unacceptable (and perhaps the parents, had they known, would not have done either). All of them must have benefited from the teacher’s regime – we were obedient, easily manageable.

Living in today’s America reminds me of that nursery school. The reigning tyranny; the men who brutalise the innocent – like the boy with the hammer – because they can; the people who, like my mother, say this can’t be true, life can’t be that terrible; if bad things happen, you are the problem; do not provoke; keep up the hope; things will be better – by the midterms, in four years, some day.

A friend in London talks about the mystifying phrase she keeps hearing these days: ‘This is not America, this is not who we are.’ But this is America, this is life, and this is how human beings behave. American exceptionalism will not save us. My friends and I have all made sure that our phones are fully charged when we leave the house – to record if necessary, a small act, though not entirely risk free.

I don’t know if the little boy who held hands with me at nursery school remembers the terror we lived through. He was considered ‘backward’, and I got into plenty of trouble fighting for him. He was later mistreated and bullied at elementary school, where I was no longer able to protect him. Fifty years on, remembering is the only thing I can do for him, as he once offered me a tiny and essential comfort by holding my hand.

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